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Recent Revlations Vol. 1: Ego, Focus, and Clarity

Hello Friends šŸ™‚

Iā€™m starting a new series called, ā€œRecent Revelationsā€.

As Iā€™ve ventured into the world of digital entrepreneurship, Iā€™ve come across many personal roadblocks and errors.

ā€™Recent Revelationsā€™ is a collection of personal stories:

  • Sharing helpful insights
  • & Taking you behind the scenes of my journey

In this letter, Iā€™m sharing what Iā€™ve recently learned about:

  • Ego
  • Focus
  • & Clarity

I want to share these lessons with you guys;

In case you also feel the call, to do something bigger than yourself.

In hope that you can learn from my mistakes.

Last week, I was on a networking call, and it made me think deeply about my approach to building a ā€œPersonal Brandā€ online.

I was casually listening into a Twitter Space when a gentleman came on to ask a few questions during a Q&A.

I decided to scroll through his profile and found his “enlightenment” story posted as his ā€˜pinned tweet.ā€™

As I read his story, I couldnā€™t help but feel we went through a similar experience.

I sent him a DM and scheduled a call with him shortly after.

The conversation went back and forth, talking about

  • Our personal experiences
  • What ā€˜schools of thoughtā€™ we followed
  • & other discussions about our journey.

An interesting part of the conversation was receiving criticism during the call.

While I came in with the intention of sharing stories and where weā€™re at now, he listened to my story and addressed my ā€œissuesā€ from his point of viewā€”

Which felt strange, but it helped me see where his perspective was.

The lessons he taught that resonated most with me were:

  • ā€œI AMā€ is to feel as if you have ā€˜what you wantā€™, now.
  • The Mind is Allā€” ‘What you think in your mind’ is what you become
  • If you want to ā€œbeā€ someone, you have to do what that kind of person does

At some point, we even challenged each otherā€™s ideas.

I said:

  • Jesus Christ isnā€™t the ā€˜Savior of the Worldā€™.
  • Heā€™s a symbol for the ā€˜Savior of the Worldā€™.
  • He was just a person who achieved Christ Consciousness like others before him.

and he said things like,

  • Your work is a placebo effect because energy is secondary to the mind.
  • Change your mental state and you change your energy.
  • If you imagine what it would feel like if you were already the person you want to be, you would change the way you feel.

And this is fine.

The world is full of infinite perspectives; itā€™s natural to have people disagree with your self-created identity.

Some people prefer hot; others prefer cold.

Republicans and Democrats are in the same field with opposing views.

When I got off the call, I started to think about the things he said, and it opened doors of insights.

This is where I learned 3 valuable lessons about building a ā€œPersonal Brandā€ online:

Lesson 1: Ego

In the past month, Iā€™ve been feeling abnormally self-absorbed and selfish.

I couldnā€™t say why, but I felt disconnected from people.

I thought:

ā€˜Iā€™ve developed my interests into such a deep niche that I find it hard to relate with others.ā€™

This seed of thought is what disconnected me from other people.

The thought then transformed into:

ā€˜Less ego. More Serving. Itā€™s not about me. Itā€™s about the people I can help.ā€™

Then, after the call, I suddenly realized this seed of thought was also incomplete.

It had been so long since someone had tried to teach me something unexpectedly that it felt strange.

The words ā€œego is the enemyā€ kept repeating itself in my head.

Suddenly, I remembered a book called ā€œEgo is the Enemyā€ and went to Youtube for a quick clip.

The author, Ryan Holiday said something that resonated with this particular instance.

He said,

Adopt the Student Mentality

Iā€™ve come to realize that:

If Iā€™m going to connect with more people on the Internet; itā€™s better to approach with a sense of exploration and curiosity.

If you continue to think that there is nothing to learn from others, your ability to connect with new people will suffer.

Before you start any project or anything new, you must check your ego.

There is something you can learn from everyone.

Everyone has a unique experience in this world and listening to their stories and lessons can help us build ourselves.

So, the lesson I got from this experience was:

ā€œIf youā€™re going to meet more people in the world, you must be open to learning from their perspectives as well.

Itā€™s a collective contribution of experiences that will create the greater whole.

So, stop being self-centered; your experiences are not more important than anyone elseā€™s.

Learn from everyoneā€™s perspective; be the student.

  • Listen to them carefully
  • Put yourself in their shoes
  • & Extract the essence of their message.

After I put on my student cap, I found that the internet is full of people with grand insight and experience in their own way.

It opened my mind to seeing the greatness in everyone.

I began to think about the lessons he was teaching me during the call, and that brought about the next 2 lessons.

Lesson 2: Focus

His lessons derived from new-aged spirituality mystics. People like:

  • Neville Goddard
  • Joseph Murphy
  • Alan Watts

If youā€™re into spirituality, a few youtube videos of these guys can get you hooked lol.

He reminded me of an interesting state of mind.

He said something like,

ā€œTo be who you want to be, you must imagine yourself as if youā€™ve already fulfilled the dream.

If you imagine yourself in a fulfilled state, then your actions and feelings will change toward the direction of your dreams.ā€

Not his exact words. Heavily paraphrased, but that was the idea I got.

Then he said,

ā€œThe ā€˜I AMā€™ is how you change who you want to be.ā€

Thatā€™s when it hit me.

ā€˜I AMā€™ and Affirmations are re-focusing tools.

ā€˜I amā€™ and other affirmations are re-focusing tools to keep your mind directed toward your desired outcomes.

Our minds run on autopilot throughout most of the day.

If we ever want to consciously re-direct our focus toward an ideal outcome, affirmations act as a constant reminder of “who we would like to become.”

After I came to the realization that ā€˜I AMā€™ is a high-profile re-focusing tool, I learned my final lesson from this call.

Lesson 3: Clarity

I amā€¦ Whatā€¦?

You canā€™t just exclaim random ā€˜I amā€™ statements.

Who do you want to become?

Thatā€™s when I realized I lacked clarity.

I have my goals and affirmations scattered around physical and digital notepads, but I fail to re-visit them.

How can I consistently change who I am when I havenā€™t established clarity for my goal?

I have.

Many times.

But again.

Not revisiting them.

My solution is to buy a course I’ve been thinking about.

And this time, commit to being a humble student.

In Summary:

Lesson 1:

Ego can get in the way when forming connections with others.

Be open to learning from every experience and person.

Lesson 2:

ā€˜I AMā€™ and affirmations are re-focusing tools.

Lesson 3:

Create your ideal life:

Who do you want to be?

What do you want to do?

What do you want to have?

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Create clarity from your answers.

Revisit frequently or have someone hold you accountable.

You need some way of having the clarity of your vision in the forefront of your mind as often as you can.

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Til next time,

David Chong